I was inspired to share this simple “Practice of Positivity” that my family does every night at the dinner table. It has drastically improved our lives and especially the life of my nine year old who struggles with Anxiety issues, at a time when he and the rest of our family needed it the most. Now it has become a vital life skill/practice we can’t do without.
Four years ago we uprooted our two boys from their lives in the middle of the school year to move into our new home on the other side of town. We had not anticipated that the adjustment would be so hard on our children especially our oldest son who just turned nine years old. His world began slowly falling apart and we were fumbling at trying to help our wonderful son who was clearly struggling and going down hill.
A simple positivity/gratitude practice for the whole family.
2. This is a simple type of gratitude practice that the whole family can get in on and share. A gratitude practice is an action you take to express gratitude. People who take the time to have a gratitude practice are more happy then naturally optimistic people who don’t have a gratitude practice. Some other examples of a gratitude practice include, writing in a gratitude journal, name things that are positive for five minutes while out on a run, saying a prayer to your creator that only includes the things your are grateful for and not the things you need… ect.
3. Some days are easier than others but what we learn is that no matter how bad the day is, there was at least five wonderful things about it… no matter how BAD. How powerful is that! Being able to see the positive in each day is an amazing life skill no matter the age.
4. The “Five Things” positivity practice lessens daily anxiety issues and helps your family members see not so black and white. When we actively share and express positivity about our day, the next day looks brighter. Positivity Studies have shown that people who write down positive affirmations about their day before they go to bed, sleep better at night.
5. Bonus: It also doubles as a great way for us to hear details about each others lives that we don’t normally hear about and is a great conversation starter. Imagine sitting around the dinner table at night and everything is revolved around beautiful happy stories that up lift and encourage each other. Thats exactly what this does.
This practice does not cure everything, nothing does. But for our family it has made a massive impact not only on my son’s daily life but all of us. I realized that I to get in the Doom & Glooms and can let it take over my day, but when I sit myself down to dinner and know I have to be a good example to my children by naming ALL “Five Things” it changes my entire attitude and outlook.
Within months of doing this positivity practice we were contacted by my sons teacher, this time it was good news! She noticed a huge improvement with our son at school and the melt downs had stopped. We almost hit the roof with joy! I know part of this success is him just acclimating to his new school but I also know a huge part of it was putting into place a simple system to help him see the good in each of his school days. This work is real, and no matter who your family is, if you take the time to add more love and positivity in your home, it’s never waisted and you will see results. We have now been doing “Five Things” for over three years and it has become a family tradition and something we look forward to each night. It’s just a natural part of our day now, and sometimes the best part of our day.